Analogy: Society’s chains

TL;DR: Idea that there are some things you do because society taught you to do it that way.

Context: Lost in life. so look back at the notes I wrote during my life to find some inspiration or answers to my question. Back in 2013-2014, I was very lucky. I took the time to disconnect from reality and connect with myself. It was a period of internal growth. Lots of writing. See part 1 and part 2.

Part 1: ”Analogy (Society Chain): You wake up one day in a society where you can choose to chain yourself. As you grow up, your parents conditioned you well and put “chains” on you, so you look similar to other people. The more chains you have the more you fit in society. You live life in a way that you can keep those chains and work hard to keep those chains to look like the other people. You are friends with those people. You never considered removing those chains, because the people around you will feel that you are different. You don’t want to be alone, so you always try to please them. Sometimes, it makes you frustrated, but your friends have the same chains as you, so they encouraged you to keep them. They tell you that you have to suffer, because that’s how things are.
Those chains are heavy and take you time to work on them. It provides you “good” concept such as friendship, peer approval, keeps you alive, etc. Nevertheless, it holds you from what you are supposed to be.
They are not doing something bad in itself. Their actions have good intentions. It’s just that it doesn’t make you grow stronger. They are not less happy than the ones that have dreams. It’s just different. They are happy with what they have. They are comfortable. They don’t feel the need to fight their challenges.

You have to be normal. You need to behave. Listen to your parents. Go to school. Get a job. Get a girlfriend. Don’t be weird. Don’t be alone. Be a doctor. Get a diploma. Study science. Study hard. Get grades. Grades are important.
Why are you doing this? That’s not normal. Stop doing this. I’m not your friend. You’re weird.

If you ask questions to them:

If this what you want to do? No, but I have to because I need to…
They don’t choose. They follow.”

Part 2: ”I believe everyone has something important to do in his/her life, but they are not doing it because of the circumstances, their environment: society, people around them, time-waster (video games, tv-shows, talk to talk), unhealthy lifestyle, situation, etc. You name it. Whatever that is an obstacle to your happiness.”

Interpretation:

• Situation: Full-time worker with comfortable chains, but tolerate the job.

• Interpretation: I feel that you start life somewhere, in an environment already defined. Veteran who are playing the “life game” teach you how to “survive” in it. The chains are very comfortable. And it’s okay to just live a normal life if you don’t have any complaints. Or you can tolerate your situation. The pain/ regret associate of inaction is not high enough to make you move. What’s not okay is if you found your “calling” and you aren’t doing nothing about it.

• Action: Build a strong financial nest, so I can take more risk. Get punched by life, but can get up and keep moving forward.

Quotes:

“In everyone’s heart, there is a hole. We use things like work or a lover to make us feel wanted so it distracts us from the hole inside. “

“It was easy for me to blame her for wasting most of my life on something I hated but I realized when I was older that part of me was at fault, too, because it takes two to be tricked by a lie: the person telling the lie and the person who’s tricked by it.”

SimpleLifeBalancing.